What Friend Really Means

What Friend Really Means ( A little shocking experiment to not lost your friend )

They say a good friend will always be at your side, no matter what, they will support you but really show you when you are wrong and won’t let you fall by your self. A good friend supposed to be there whenever you are sick, down, brokenhearted, feels pathetic, annoyed, alone, bothered, or any unfriendly conditional.

But from all of that statement, don’t you see any difference which felt down too much on wishing something more than giving. We sometimes feel lonely, feel nobody understand us, feel unblessed, and all of those bad feeling we couldn’t ever imagine. And it got worse because nobody or no friend that we actually hoped are really there by our side :D


Some of our friend also wonders when we try to contact them in our happy time, or let say when we have no problem at all, it just like when my mother is contacted and asked about her day not in early date of the month, because we usually contact our mom whenever we already run out of money.

Hahaha, but overall, I learned a lot today. Again, no day without learning something, that’s why God creates every day with it’s own uniqueness. What I learned today is best friend will always be there, when they beside you they’ll tell you, when they are separated by distance they’ll watch you, when they are separated by time they’ll pray for you. And how that becomes possible? Here is the little experiment I did today.

Like exactly 7 pm I feel bored waiting for my daddy come to change shift to watch me over in the hospital. And I keep checking my social network page for like every single seconds, again, bad thing to do because it waste thousands of minutes from my life, then I feel so lonely because no body paying attention on me like commenting or posting on my wall. And I try to remember how many friends I actually have for this long. I know that I always get different friend from different condition, like when I am in college now, I have friends for hang out, friends for boyfriend’s talk, friends for shopping, friends for studying, friends for lab time, friends for committee, friends for karaoke, friends for boarding house activity, etc. And all of those friends do not know each other pretty well, so, apparently I am becoming the single connector for different separated network: D. Then I try to remember how many friends I have had when I was in my senior high school, when I was in USA, when I was in USA but also spend time together with me in Indonesia, when I was in USA but also spend time with me in Indonesia and in high school, when I was in junior high school, when I was in Malaysia. And after I count, I can not even remember whole name of my friends, of my friends reader, I can still call them friend, which I am not sure whether they still remember me or not :). And I just do not want to lost them again, I spend so many beautiful times with them, we share beautiful memories at those times, but then it was faded away as the time goes by, have you ever feel that? At least, remember how many friends from your childhood who can still enjoy time talking with you together, they change, we change, world changes, and so many changes to catch up between those two human being, so after they separated for distance and time, God can only bet whether they will get back become best friend, or friend, or even just share memories as an old best friends. And again, I do not want to lost that again, I do not want the person I share my daily activities with me right now, which I share my daily memories will just faded away for the next several years.

So, I start to think in calling them back, at least testing which one still become my best friend, my friend, or my shared memories friend. I then choose like 50 random friends from my phonebook which I can reach (it means nationally) from texting them. I text those persons with the same words “How was your day?? :D” And those magic words sent with the magic of telecommunication (thanks God I am taking this major :D )in seconds. Let’s analyze what happened.

-if you, my BFF, is reading this blog now, promise me I really meant to text you because I missed you, not just putting you in my experiments-
From 30 person from my BFF now-who still have a daily contact with me-separated only by conditional friends status (like community friends, boarding house friends, lab friends, etc) 28 replies, 25 replies in a very good feedback :D ( it means they actually tell something about their day, asking my news, and text messaging between us was continued for several times). From 10 person from my BFF separated by time but still shared same memories when I am in college (mostly they graduated already), 9 of them replies, 1 is pending (I think he changes his number), 7 giving great feedback, and I actually make a real schedule to do something with them (doing project, or meeting them). And the rest are 10 person ranging from my elementary school ( from 1, she forgot me already), 5 from junior high school (3 replies, 1 nice feedback), and 4 from senior high school (2 replies with great feedback). So if we summed up, I actually still able to reach 42 friends out of 50 which is 84%, with 70% still having BFF badges :D.

I can not sure what will happen for the next several weeks, several months, and several years even. I do not know how much physical contact, with frequency of days, weeks or months I should catch them up. Can technologies such as social network really keep our friendship, but what will happen if they or probably me are not that extrovert in social network, so how can I still keeping all of my BFF aside?
Those BFF things are a little bit bothering me; I just can’t let them go, while I actually always open for new change and new environment. But I then summarize by making sure I will keep my eyes open for any news of them, try to contact them, meeting them if it possible, text them, or write something on their wall, by doing this and that. Even when I asked my mom how many BFF from her past still contact her, she said zero-probably because FB just newly found :p

I learned from remembering how many times all of my BFF supporting me, filling my great memories which I can not buy, that I actually own them lots of thanks and cares. That’s why I then promise my self from now on to just feel blessed with my BFF surround me, having as many times as possible with them, and still contact my old BFF frequently. Old BFF will have old memories because we pushed them away.
For me, whatever they are, Best Friends really means a lot. Best friend will always be there, when they beside you they’ll tell you, when they are separated by distance they’ll watch you, when they are separated by time they’ll pray for you.
Xoxo-inay



This is the best song about true friendship for me :D
The corrs-at yourside, you can check out the lyric here, see it here, and finally download it here..

go, call your best friend now!!!!!! :) :) :) :)